Nanomachines son said:
Bird Poo said:
Nanomachines son said:
Bird Poo said:
I don't know. The Catholic Church I attended the other day announced scholarships after mass. All 10 were female. This church is not some some parish that prioritizes females over males.
I think technology is making young males stupid and lazy. Combined with the lack of opportunity to "learn the hard way" from parents willing to be a constant backstop, young men today lack the drive of previous generations, IMO. Fear of failure paralyzes them into indecision. It's a strange phenomenon that I've seen with a LOT of young men.
I have 4 boys and 2 girls. Just speaking from my observation.
Men do better on all standardized tests across the board, so no men are not dumber. School is heavily female biased and frankly boring as hell for most men. High school was a joke for me and that was 25 years ago. I doubt much has changed in schools about how easy it is. There is no reason to work when school is this easy.
I never really had to try until later classes at A&M and then grad school. Once I did I got almost all A's.
I'm speaking to their motivations (which are stupid). They're no longer motivated to be successful and raise a family.
True happiness is delayed as they prefer to sit in front of a screen and game all day. It delays their maturation.
We can sit here and ***** about how hard boys have it, but their success ultimately starts at home. Parents coddle these dumbasses and then complain about how hard it is for them.
Please tell me more about maturity when women are addicted to social media validation to a hilariously greater extent than men. Yeah it's just men who are immature and women definitely aren't told they are little princesses who can do no wrong and crater at the first sign of constructive criticism.
Gaming is not an issue. I played video games an enormous amount as a kid and I am married with kids of my own now. That is not and never was the problem, but people like you, who don't understand the real issues, blame games for making boys not care anymore despite the overwhelming evidence that most of these boys are told they are basically evil from birth and are worthless while watching women get every single major opportunity. Yeah I'm sure that had no effect upon how these boys viewed school or definitely helped pushed them to try harder.
As a parent there is only so much you can do to combat general society. I'm raising my boys to understand that nothing will ever be given to them by general society and that the world is likely going to treat them terribly because they are white and male. They will have to scratch and claw for everything in life even if school comes easy. However, I will not remain blissfully ignorant about how society will view them and I will prepare them as much as I can for this.
Lot of harsh truths here. I have 2 boys, one in college and one in HS and I have gone out of my way to make sure they understand that no one will feel sorry for them, life is unfair, and they will have to just work that much harder than everyone else to succeed. It's worked better than I could have hoped and has given them a superpower. That superpower is they are much tougher than their competition, they brush off failures and it only makes them work harder. They have seen how that works. You get a door slammed and another opens if you keep working, eventually you find people that simply want the harder working person that doesn't sit around and complains, they just do. Very few women are like that because it works against their physiology and hormones that drives emotional behavior.
So much of school is designed around girls and to cater to them. Neither of my boys had what I would consider a masculine teacher until High School. They had 1 gay guy in their Elementary school and an ultra Beta in Middle School. The only masculine guys they saw were coaches. High school has been better but so much is already in place by then. You have to be actively engaged with boys as a parent or else it can end very badly.
It also never ceases to amaze me how much they reward females over males in education, it's even worse than the workforce. STEM is the worst. If a female shows any ability or interest at all they are praised and rewarded. If there is a club or activity they are always given preference both for membership and for leadership. My STEM focused son just kind of laughs about it as he sees the girls barely know what they are doing and constantly make mistakes he has to correct yet win all the awards and get the honors given by the teachers. He brushes it off because he is actually learning and knows what he is doing. Looking at applying to elite Engineering programs at places like Duke and they openly admit that a female gets double consideration over a male. Even a place like MIT is almost 50/50 Male/Female (52/48). If you honestly think that is because of merit for Engineering you need your head examined. That's fine, my son will simply outwork them and find his path.
Of course the sad thing is that I see so many of these women as a recruiter in Tech and they tend to burn out at a much faster rate than the men. Very few women truly love to do complex engineering for a variety of reasons and very few can do it better than men. So often they will pass the first interview but get crushed on the tech screen. Then if they get into management they really struggle with the stress and pace and ruthlessness of it. Jordan Peterson has given some great talks about this, it's just most women simply aren't willing to or don't want to make the level of sacrifices necessary to stay at the top in those worlds and if they do they are rarely happy.
One thing that flat out cracked me up though. I listen to a lot of Podcasts on College Admissions as my younger son is in that cycle. Realize that almost all of the folks that are in Admissions are Liberal Arts Majors that couldn't get a private sector job btw. They are also overwhelmingly female or very Beta male. Anyway, I listened to one where you had a few of them crying and whining about how a male who wants to attend a really good Liberal Arts school now has a significant advantage because there are so few men that want to do so anymore. Not talking about the super elites but the tier just below that. Those schools are all terrified of dropping below 40% male because it is death for them. Once that happens men stop applying and more interestingly so do women. Women want to go where the boys are. If anything men prefer a male dominated environment for college if they can find one. So what has happened is these LA schools are funding all kinds of men's sports and scholarships and doing all they can to get men to come there and it infuriates these College Admin types. Of course they have zero cognitive dissonance about how men feel about women in STEM. They also put very little value on team sports accomplishments but find a girl who is a great Flute player and they swoon.
In the end the key is to make sure your sons don't get discouraged by school and just keep working. If you have daughters make sure they think about what they really want in life and not what society is telling them to want. For both of them try to keep them away from social media and spending time outdoors and active as much as possible and expose them to as many experiences as you can to show them the world is bigger than the bubble they grow up in.
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